
When the Departed Speak
Understanding True Spiritual Communication
Most people assume that if a loved one has crossed over, they should still be standing close by—showing signs, visiting dreams, or leaving messages. It’s comforting for some to think that way.
But the majority of spirits do not linger simply because we miss them.
Most souls continue their journey back to the Creator God. They don’t stay stuck in emotional traffic trying to comfort the living or live through them. When genuine communication happens, it’s because the contact is purposeful and aligned with both spirits involved.
Can mediums reach your departed? They will connect to what’s with you—a shell holding on to the essence of your loved one, infused with your memories of them. In most cases, that is what responds first because it sits closest to the living and is easiest to access.
Before continuing, it’s important to understand that there are three very different forms of spiritual presence that people often confuse with one another:
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- The energetic shell or imprint
- The soul that has moved on
- The soul that chooses not to leave the earth plane
Mediums often connect with the first because it remains within reach. The second continues on its spiritual path. And only a small minority fall into the third category.
As a spiritual healer, I originally understood the term lost soul to refer to spirits who linger. Over time, through direct healing experience and later through a vivid dream, I came to recognize a deeper truth: there are no lost souls.
There are souls who choose to remain in this dimension. The phrase lost soul implies confusion or aimless wandering, when in reality some simply do not wish to leave the earth plane entirely. Because of this, I could only assist in liberating the ones who were spiritually ready to move on.
Many assume these souls stay out of fear or attachment to the life they once lived. But in practice, the majority are willing—sometimes even eager—to return to the Creator God and continue their journey beyond this world.
Why Would the Departed Stay Behind?
This is an honest question.
A soul that has completed its earthly work moves on. What remains is not the soul itself, but the emotional tether created by those who are grieving.
Love, grief, and longing can hold energy in place, and that attachment must be released. Releasing a loved one is not forgetting them. It is letting go of the emotional cord, so healing can begin, allowing memories of love and joy to remain without being trapped in grief.

A Spiritual Science Reflection by Rev. Starlene Joyner Burns, President & Founder, National Spiritual Science Center Historical Society.
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Final Thought



Unbeknownst to me, the first time I felt vibrations was during a phone conversation with an aunt in 1987 or 1988. That was a sign of my gift that day, despite the conversation. Vibrations come in a range of densities—from suffocating, tingling, gentle, to light and airy. I can feel the energy in an aura, objects, thoughts (anger, hate, etc), or even places—it’s not emotional empathy; it’s vibrational sensitivity.
Practicing Spiritual Science requires balance, discipline, and consistency. It’s not about constantly seeking higher spiritual experiences but about maintaining awareness, care, and growth through every phase of life’s lessons. Whether life feels aligned or chaotic, staying grounded in spiritual principles helps navigate challenges and stay true to one’s path.